A financial tale of two sisters.
I’ve heard many people wonder if your spending habits truly make a difference, or is it the income that matters. I believe it is some of both. Here’s a story about a true saver and spender and what exactly happens when you change your spending habits.
The story you are about to read is true. The names have been changed to protect those involved. (Note Sarcasm 😉 )
Once upon a time there were two sisters.
One was named Jane and the other Melissa.
Jane and Melissa were raised by two hardworking, frugal minded parents. These wonderful parents raised the sisters to understand the importance of saving money, spending wisely, and budgeting.
Jane and Melissa both began receiving an allowance at age 12. They were both given the same amount of money and were taught to save at least 10%, tithe 10% and the rest they could spend.
Melissa began babysitting at a young age. The majority of her weekends and summers were spent babysitting for multiple families. She was able to earn a good deal of money from this job and she followed her parents counsel by saving and tithing 10% of her income.
The Teen Years
As Melissa grew, so did her social life. She loved to spend her weekends with friends. She enjoyed using her spending money, and because she had saved and tithed, she felt no guilt in spending the rest. Melissa and her friends spent the majority of their time together going to movies, eating out at restaurants, and shopping at the mall.
At age 16 Melissa got a job. This job provided her with part time hours during the school year and full time during the summer. She was earning more money now, and was diligent about saving money and preparing for her financial future. Melissa was very proud of her bank account, and proud that she had been able to save faithfully during her teen years.
When she graduated from high school she had $3,000 in her savings account.
Unlike Melissa, Jane didn’t babysit very much during her younger years. She tried to do extra chores around the home and was able to earn some extra money that way.
At age 16 Jane began working at the same store Melissa had worked at. Jane was also able to earn a steady income with part time hours during the school year and full time during the summer.
Jane worked hard at her high school job and enjoyed earning money. She was diligent about tithing 10% of her paychecks, but decided to save even more than the 10% her parents had asked of her. Instead, she saved 70% or more of each paycheck and kept very little for personal spending money.
Her social life grew, as most teens did. She chose her friends wisely, and found friends who had similar goals and aspirations as she did. Instead of going to movies and shopping, like Melissa and her friends did, they instead chose to spend time at each other homes and enjoying frugal activities together.
Jane graduated from high school with $16,000 in her banking account. (Remember Melissa only had $3,000)
So What Happened?
Two Sisters. Raised the exact same way. Given the exact same allowance. Worked at the exact same job, received the exact same paychecks. Yet, Jane ended up with four times the amount of money that Melissa had.
Jane was much wiser in her spending. She chose to participate in frugal activities and understood the value in saving as much money as she could.
Melissa, on the other hand, did the bare minimum. She didn’t worry much about the future, and figured as long as she was saving a little bit, she would be fine. Melissa didn’t realize the life she COULD have given herself if she had only practiced a little more self control. Her vision was not as big as Janes.
Spending Habits Matter
All good stories end with a moral, and this one is no different.
The story of Jane and Melissa has taught me many many financial lessons. However, there is one lesson that sticks out to me more than the others.
Jane and Melissa received the EXACT same paychecks, for the EXACT same number of years. Their parents taught them the EXACT same money principles in the EXACT same way. But, Jane chose to save and save and save, while Melissa chose to spend.
This teaches me that our financial situation is not always about how much money we might MAKE….it is more about how much money we SAVE. The paycheck isn’t the problem, the way we spend money is the problem.
Just imagine what a difference your savings account could make over the next few years if you just cut out going out to eat, or going to the movies, etc. Little baby steps can make a big difference.
I am able to say this, because this is MY story. I am Melissa.
20 Years Later….
It has now been 20 years since Jane and Melissa grew up together learning how to manage money.
Jane Update: Jane continues to save money, live frugally and budget. She has found a good balance between spending money to enjoy life and saving for emergencies and the future.
Melissa Update: It took a little bit longer for Melissa to learn smart money skills. But, through time and a few financial hardships, she is now a diligent budgeter and loves to save money. She also writes a little blog called Sweet Frugal Life where she shares that living on a budget can still be a sweet and happy life! 😉
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Thank you for sharing your real life story. Glad to see you were taught to tithe to the church. Lesson learned and hope your saving has grown since.
It definitely has! I have learned many lessons!
Jasmine - LoveLifeLaughMotherhood says
This is a great lesson to teach!
Mommy & Mia Homeschool Chronicles says
Tithing is such an overlooked principle you have shed some insight on this topic & glad your comprehend the importance of tithing,
Yes, it is so important!
Melanie, Mommy Finance says
this sounds like me and my sister lol. I also think it varies as I’m the oldest and had to deal with a lot of responsibilities. My sister was the middle and the wild child lol. Thanks for sharing this!
I love this story. How about you make the part 2. The story of Melissa after she changed her spending habits to saving habits. That would give us a lot of hope
Sweet Frugal Life says
What a great idea! I think I will do that! Thanks for the inspiration!
I love it. Thanks for sharing your story!
Sweet Frugal Life says
I’m so glad you enjoyed it!!!